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Welcome to The Invisible Mommy

My name is Birgitte – I’ve been an invisible mommy for 21 years. It’s the best AND worst job I’ve ever had.

If you’re a mom too I’m sure you have felt unacknowledged and unappreciated at some point.

And if you’ve felt that, you’ve possibly also felt inadequate, overwhelmed and sad.

It’s hard being a mom. It's uncomfortable to speak your truth when there is judgment lurking around every corner. It’s a job that is often taken for granted and seems to come with the expectation that appreciation is not and should not be needed or wanted. In fact, it would be self-serving, inappropriate, and even shameful to want or need appreciation as a mom…

Seriously, though? Whatever!

I’m here to tell you that you are not alone.

Motherhood isn't as picture perfect as it is portrayed on social media. It just isn’t. It's so much more than hugs and kisses and smiling play dates. We all know that.

My children are my world. They bring a joy to my life that is indescribable – there really is no experience I’m more grateful for. I chose to be a mom and love it AND I hate many of the tasks being a mom involves. What I’ve discovered is that you can actually love your children and hate parenting.

The Invisible Mommy is a passion project, a work in progress, I created because I want a place where I can share my mommy victories and the occasional vent in a way that is real and resonates with you. But also because I want a place to document all the things I love which includes my husband, my two Golden Retrievers, my life in Southern California, my Danish roots, knitting and cooking just to name a few.

I’m also very passionate about mental health having had OCD and anxiety deeply affect my family since 2013.

I hope you will find something on this page that you can relate to and that you will leave The Invisible Mommy feeling better than when you first came here.

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